Read Galatians 5: 22-23
[Gal 5:22-23 NKJV] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
How many times in your life have you heard or read this verse and not slow down to seek the wisdom which the Holy Spirit placed in it for you to understand? As you determine to understand that the completeness of the fruit produced by the Holy Spirit is a singular piece of fruit. You also see that it is progressive in its design. Each of the ingredients come in an orderly progression to perfect the whole fruit. Agape love brings joy, which leads to peace and the ability to be longsuffering. Longsuffering allows us to add kindness, goodness and then comes faithfulness. After gentleness we move on to self-control.
“From kratos, “strength,” occurs in Act 24:25; Gal 5:23; 2 Peter 1:6 (twice), in all of which it is rendered “temperance;”…., “self-control” is the preferable rendering, as “temperance” is now limited to one form of self-control; the various powers bestowed by God upon man are capable of abuse; the right use demands the controlling power of the will under the operation of the Spirit of God; in Act 24:25 the word follows “righteousness,” which represents God’s claims, self-control being man’s response thereto; in 2 Peter 1:6, it follows “knowledge,” suggesting that what is learned requires to be put into practice.” Vines Expository Dictionary
If you lack self-control you have a tendency to blame everything else for your irresponsible ways. It could be you blame your parents, the area of town you were raised, the amount of money you do not have, the alignment of the stars, the shape of your body, or you did not get enough hugs when you were young. Self-control is being thankful for the gifts you have been given instead of looking at what you do not have. Then embracing God as God.