3 Do’s of Dadhood Father’s Day ‘21

Ephesians 6:1-4

In honor of Father’s Day I’ve compiled of few
Dad jokes

Did you know the guy who named the umbrella meant
to call it brella, but he hesitated.

People who take care of chickens are literally
chicken tenders

If you ever get locked out of your house,
Talk to your lock calmly
Because communication is the key.

Our focal verse for this morning is Ephesians 6:4
Although we are going to spend most of our time
dissecting this verse, we need to discuss it’s context.

This verse is in the midst of the household code that
Paul is explaining to the church at Ephesus.
(beginning in the latter verses of chapter 5)
It’s all about mutual submission.
He tells husbands to love their wives just as Christ
loved the church. He tells wives to submit to their
husbands as to the Lord.

He also tells them to be subject to one another in the
fear of Christ.

With that in mind, let’s start by reading the text.

Ephesians 6:1-4

Verse 1 begins with a command for children to obey
their parents
Verse two refers back to the actual commandment
given by God to Moses on the mountain.
Honor your father and mother.
As we consider these verses, keep in mind the idea of
mutual submission.

Now, let’s dive deep into verse 4.

I’ve heard lots of Father’s Day sermons over the years
Often times pastors feel that Father’s Day is the best
time to give stats about how dads need to do better
and the focus is on what they are doing wrong and all
of the things they could do better.

This sermon isn’t one of those sermons.
Today, I’m here to encourage dads and I’m going to
give you three things you can/should do and only one
thing you should not do.

Let’s go ahead and get the negative out of the way
first.

Do NOT provoke your Children to Anger

The word provoke here is the Greek word
Parargeedzo – it means to rouse to wrath, to provoke,
exasperate, anger

It’s the same word Paul used in his letter to the
Colossian church too,
He writes, “Fathers, do not exasperate your
children, so that they will not lose heart.”
Colossians 3:21
Don’t confuse this with when children throw tantrums
in order to manipulate dad to get their way. This is a
different situation.

This is more like when dad knows someone is upset
but he continues to push their buttons to cause an
outburst. I know none of us here have ever done that,
especially your pastor! Ok, guilty. No need to ask my
children, they will tell you I’ve failed in this category
more than once.

Dad’s today’s only don’t is don’t poke the bear and
keep poking it!!

Now, for the 3 Do’s of Dadhood

The first Do is to
Nurture Your Children
The New American Standard Bible translates it “bring
them up”, but the same word is found just a few
verses earlier in Ephesians 5:29 where Paul is talking
about how husbands ought to love their wives as they
love their own bodies. His point is that we take care of
our own bodies, we should also nourish our wives.
And in chapter 6 it’s the same concept, dads, we
should nourish our children.

There are several ways we can nourish our children
Physically – we must be providers of their food,
shelter and clothing. It’s our job as providers to take
care of their basic needs.
But, our responsibility doesn’t end there
We must also nourish our children,
Emotionally – we can show them how emotions are
neither bad or good, they just are. God gave us
emotions and He also experienced almost every
emotion we do as well, He never experienced guilt
from sin.
There’s a quote by Chuck Swindoll that I’ve
shared with my kids around 100 times

I’m convinced that life is 10% what happens to
me and 90% how I react to it.

This is how we nurture our children. Teach them that
life happens and God is in charge of it. If we let
ourselves get stressed out and upset when things
don’t go as we planned or think they should, it’s OK.

God’s still in control and we can trust Him and depend
on Him. No matter what.

The third way we nurture our children is
Spiritually – like it or not dads, we are the spiritual
leaders of our household. I remember struggling with
this as a young dad, feeling unqualified to lead my
family. Over time God showed me that he didn’t need
me to know everything, He just wanted me to be
obedient to Him and follow His leading.
We have to make spiritual matters important in our
families.
Bring our children to church, talk to them about God
and how He has done things in our lives. Allow them
to catch you reading the Bible, praying. Spend time
praying over your children, pray together as a family.
We nurture our children when we teach them by
doing what we expect them to do.
Parenting is more caught than taught.

The second Do of Dadhood is
Discipline Your Children
Paul writes bring them up in the discipline of the Lord
This doesn’t mean that we get to be the dad with the
iron fist, happy to punish our kids when they are one
minute late for curfew. We ought to discipline our
children out of love, just as God disciplines His
children

When you have some time, take about a minute to
read Hebrews 12:4-11
I’m going to share the highlights with you this
morning.

We should not take lightly God’s discipline
God disciplines those He loves.
We respect our fathers when they discipline us
God disciplines for our Good, so we can share in His
holiness!!!

Discipline is painful in the moment, but it yields the
peaceful fruit of righteousness

Children need boundaries, they need structure
Dad’s we have to be consistent.
We have to keep our word, if we say we are going to
do something, we have to do it.

We found out a few years ago that we weren’t being
as consistent as we should have when one of our kids
told us that it didn’t matter because we all knew that
they were going to get to do what they wanted.
That day, they didn’t.

The final Do of Dadhood is
Instruct Your Children
Paul finishes verse 4 by telling fathers to bring your
children up in the instruction of the Lord.

Dads, it’s our job to teach our children about God
Listen to two other Scriptures that give this same
message.

Proverbs 4:1-5 “Hear, O sons, the instruction of
a father, and give attention that you may gain
understanding, for I give you sound teaching;
Do not abandon my instruction. When I was a
son to my father, tender and the only son in the
sight of my mother, then he taught me and said
to me, let your heart hold fast my words; keep
my commandments and live; acquire wisdom!
Acquire understanding!
Do not forget nor turn away from the words of
my mouth.”

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 “These words, which I am
commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You
shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk
of them when you sit in your house and when you
walk by the way and when you lie down and
when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on
your hand and they shall be as frontals on your
forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of
your house and on your gates.”

Each of these Scriptures make it abundantly clear of
the expectation that God has for dads to teach their
children about Him and to know Him.

Dads, we are so thankful for you!
It’s your day. If you are here or watching online, you
have already done one of the Do’s of Dadhood!
Congrats, keep up the good work.

If your dad is still around, take time to connect with
him today.
If your dad has gone to be with the Lord, take some
time thanking God for the time you had with him
while he was here. Remember the good times.